Yes, this is sort of a mom story, but it is also a story for anyone who has been questioned about why they do something or feel uncomfortable stepping out of their safe place.
Three months ago I had my second daughter, and was cleared to start working out two weeks after her arrival. So, exactly two weeks from her birthday I started going back to the gym in the mornings before my husband left for work. Side note: I am very thankful for his support in my interests. Anywho, early one morning a fellow gym goer approached me and asked how my baby was doing. But then, the conversation took a sour turn and he started saying things like, “who’s home with the baby right now?” “Most people I know wouldn’t leave their new born.” “Your husband doesn’t mind staying home with the baby?” “Doesn’t your husband have to work?” Mind you, it was roughly 4:30 a.m. and before I left home, I fed, changed, and rocked my little nugget back to sleep.
Ok, so regretfully I smiled and responded to the questions in a kind fashion. However, on the inside I was burning with the fire of a thousand suns and wanted to hurl my dumbbell at this dumbbell. Or say, “No, my 2 year old is watching her sister now.”
Then, it got me thinking. I work out not only because I LOVE it and want to be healthy. But, I also want to an example to my two young daughters of work ethic, strength, and a healthy lifestyle. It’s always been a hobby of mine, and I’m not about to stop. I’m not going to let people’s negative thoughts detour me from something I love.
Everyday people are going to question what you do, how you do it, and why. But, does it really matter? As long as you are happy, doing something positive for yourself, and trying your best? This line of thinking eventually led to this blog. At first I was super embarrassed, nervous, and afraid of what people thought. Then I had a moment and gave myself a coaching pep talk. What if people didn’t like it? What if people made fun of me, or, even worse, thought I was dumb?
The answer, it doesn’t matter. Although, it’s way easier to say that than apply this line of thinking, sometimes you just have to fake ‘til you make it. Because if you don’t, who knows what you’ll miss out on. Don’t let someone get in the way of something you love.
In this end, this negative experience turned into the push I needed to start something new. Going to the gym was not something new, but I didn’t let someone’s negativity get in the way. So then I thought, can I try something I’ve always wanted to and kick negativity in the nose like a bloodthirsty shark? Of course! So I said, self, don’t be a dumbbell and ride the bench, get out there and play.
What’s something you’ve always wanted to do but have been nervous?
No one’s putting this gym bag on the sidelines. It’s not always going to be easy, but I don’t want to sit and watch.
Bag compliments of my dear friends Annie & Jess.